Do you follow your heart or your head when you fall in love? / myLot Philippines April 19, 2008 12:50pm CST People fall in love in different ways. Some follow their heart and some follow their heads. It is easy for some people to fall in love and when they are in love, they tend to loose focus on what is essential and right sometimes, but it depends on the situation.
- Some say that you need to use your head as the head is above the heart and that is why God placed it there.
- Others say its the heart to use as all revolves around love.
- But to a more practical modern reason, some tell you to use both and balance things out.
- I tend to use my heart first when falling in love but after learning lessons from bad experiences, I have learned to use my head also in balance with my heart.
So what do you use? Head or Heart? « Gab » 47 responses • 19 Apr 08 I would go for the heart 🙂 but if it doesn’t work out it is much more painful!! LAtely I have been trying to keep things more down to earth and not to be very intemate with anyone so that I get some peace and quite.
Falling in love can be a full time job!! • Philippines 20 Apr 08 Hi Rombi. Yes its painful when you use your heart to fall in love with someone. For me its not love if its not full time as you are not really serious about it. « Gab » • Singapore 10 May 08 Hello Gabs. Good discussion here. For me, I like to balance out between following the heart and the head.
I think too much of one is not good and there needs to be some kind of a balance. To find the niche in the balance is important. Like if I have a girlfriend and I tend to follow my head so much and keep on working for the sake of building a good future with her, but at the same time, I’m neglecting her, then it’s not wise.
And if I follow my heart and be with her all the time and forsake my work, then it’s not good too. So, that’s what I mean. To find a niche and balance in both of these. • United States 20 Apr 08 I can say, Head. I use to analyze and evaluate things a lot before I will decide. I was very very careful since I don’t like to end up my life like some of my friends, who ruined their future.
I do go out and enjoy life but I always think ahead and follow my limits! I am very lucky I found the man for me! • United States 20 Apr 08 Yea.I am just blessed to have a lot of friends who were all married. I have learned a lot from them and makes me more wise in coming up with correct decision, I have fallen in love before when I was still single which I thought I will never ever forget and I will not survive without him in my life! But, I always let my head rule since I knew he wasn’t that ideal as far as relationship is concern! I am not perfect in my life but I just want also to be happy.
and after knowing him that much, I found out that we just don’t match for some reasons! I tried to forget my feelings, it took a while but I was able to handle it, I am glad that we are still friends this time, I am hoping though he will find her soul mate in the near future! • Philippines 20 Apr 08 Well good for you and yes, there are people who are thinkers first and learn fast based on other’s experiences and I guess thats what happened to you and why you are using more of your head than your heart.
Congratulations for being in love with the man for you. « Gab » • Philippines 19 Apr 08 when i fall in love, i usually follow my heart because when we fall inlove we tend to use it instaed of our heart. sometimes our emotions are stronger than what we think is right. that is why even though we would be hurt in loving someone, we still love that person because what we feel is stronger than what we think.
i dont think that there is something wrong with that. loving someone with all your heart is never a crime but we must prepare for the consequences of loving too much. • Philippines 20 Apr 08 I agree with you that in loveing someone, we must be prepared of the consequences of the things that will come our way when we use a lot of our heart.
It is not wrong to fall in love and follow it better than what is right and follow our mind but we just have to be careful or take the consequences of it. « Gab » • Garden Grove, California 19 Apr 08 I think that when I fell in love, just once, it was heart first then head as I just knew he was the man I was going to marry and there was no question about it.
My parent were less than thrilled that I married him only six weeks after we met but I knew he was right for me and we were married for thirty four years so I must have done something right. • Philippines 20 Apr 08 There was no question about it that you have done it right by marrying that man and still being with him for 34 years! In most cases and for most people, marry fast is not a good decision because you don’t get to know the person well and don’t know if you really love that person and vise versa.
Do you follow your heart or head when it comes to love? | decision making
You are living proof that its possible. Congrats to you for having chosen to love and think about it and be successful with it. « Gab » • United States 19 Apr 08 id i know when its time to leave the relationship.and mine that i am in now is so wonderful.he is so great to me.and im so glad i got him b4 another gurl got him.its so hard to explain my love for him.but id die for him.cause i love him that much • Philippines 20 Apr 08 Its good for you that you love him so much and you have fought your love for him.
I guess you are so much using your heart and so in love with him. Wish you more to stay longer. « Gab » • United States 19 Jun 08 I tend to follow my heart when I fall in love. Many times my heart and head go together when it comes to loving someone. • Canada 9 May 08 When I fall in love my heart and my head work together.
When I met my husband my head told me that we could be friends, my heart told me we could be more than friends. My head and my heart working together, made sure that we were a good match, and we are. • Canada 21 Apr 08 I follow my heart, and then my head.
I go first by looks, then I wait until he starts speaking and if my heart goes a flutter, and he has a good job, has a nice personality, then all my practical looker upper will start to work. I am the fall in love type rather than the become friends first, get to know each other, and then I am in love.
More of the incurable romantic with a good sense of detecting danger. • Philippines 26 Jun 08 Use both. But I like using my heart than my head. But as you said there must be balance on both. • United States 21 Apr 08 I’d have to say that I use both my heart and my head.
- I fell in love with my boyfriend quite quickly, and before I even started dating him! We were friends for awhile before he actually asked me out, but I was falling for him before hand, and he for me as well.
- I’ve never had any problems that can’t be solved with him.
- We have been together for over 5 years, and will soon be 6 years in this coming July.
• United States 30 Apr 08 yes i do.well when me and my girl im with nowi new i loved her from the first time we ever talked.and its working wonders still.we are madly in love 9 months later • South Africa 13 May 08 Metaphorically, I use my heart.
- Literally, however, the heart is good for nothing except pumping blood.
- What it really comes down to is your base subconscious insticts(“heart”) and your conscious justification (“head”).
- I don’t think the head has much say in the matter because even if it is obvious that something is a bad idea, curiosity often wins in the end.
Also, I think that attraction in general is not something conscious. • United States 18 Jun 08 “follow your heart, kid, and you’l never go wrong” sand lot. • Canada 21 Apr 08 I follow my head first now that I am older but my heart has to agree or then we are just friends, but I am out of that stage at my age, I am 53 divorced with a 31 year old son and I have a boyfriend now for over 8 years. My head tells me so many things are wrong with the situation, but my heart keeps telling me it’s right, so I’m going to go on with my heart, since that’s what makes me happy! • Philippines 20 Apr 08 definitely head, i think of all the pros and cons if i go ahead and tell that person what i feel. • United States 20 Apr 08 I have a very poor track record when it comes to matters of the heart, gabrielle. As much as I hate to admit it, I have always let my heart overrule my head when it comes to falling in love. • Philippines 21 Apr 08 in my case, my heart controls my mind, that’s why i end up crying, coz i only follow wat my heart is saying. : Do you follow your heart or your head when you fall in love? / myLot
Should you follow your heart or mind in love?
What Happens When you DO Follow Your Heart – Assuming you are self-aware, deciding to follow your heart will ultimately lead you to desirable places. Of the 1,011 people that Medical Alert Buyers Guide surveyed, 60% of those who followed their heart said they are satisfied with their current job, compared to 50% who went with their head.
Does love come from the head or heart?
It’s Brain Awareness Week, and to mark the occasion, we’re taking a look at research focused on the most complex organ in the human body. You can view all of our content for Brain Awareness Week here, Anecdotally, love is a matter of the heart. However, the main organ affected by love is actually the brain. Share on Pinterest In this Special Feature, we explore how love ‘maps out’ in the human brain, and what this actually means for us. Butterflies in your stomach. That giddy feeling you get when the person you like is nearby. Excitement to be around them again.
All of these feelings will be familiar to people who have fallen in love. However, love itself remains largely a mystery. Why do we fall in love with the people we do? Why do we stay in love, and what makes us fall out of love? Some of these questions remain unanswered, and researchers from a range of disciplines are still grappling with what makes love well, love.
Still, scientists have been working for decades to understand the mechanics of love, including how it expresses in the brain and how it “makes us tick.” So, while we may not yet know everything about this deeply human experience, we do have some good pointers — about its neurobiological underpinnings, at least.
Do you usually follow your heart or your head?
Millennials Were the Group Most Likely to Follow Their Heart – Most people don’t think too much about general daily decisions. What to wear in the morning, which item to pick up from the store, and what to eat for dinner – daily decisions often seem like tedious and simple no-brainers, but every single choice we make involves both emotions and logic,
Yet, when asked about general decision-making, an overwhelming majority of people said they follow their head. However, baby boomers were the most likely to say so: Compared to 77% of millennials and 80% of Gen Xers, 84% of baby boomers said they follow their head when making general decisions. Some may argue that the older are wiser and therefore more logical, but it seems to be less about experience and more about a generational shift.
Millennials were raised in a society where more value was placed on emotions, Self-care, work-life balance, and emotional intelligence are pillars in the younger generations, and when it comes to decision-making, emotion and thought are equals. Millennials’ emphasis on emotions carries over to the working world, albeit slightly less. On average, 88% of people said they follow their head when making work-related decisions, and millennials were once again the least likely to do so. Compared to 87% of millennials who said they follow their head, a whopping 93% of baby boomers chose a more logical approach. Decisions aren’t created equally, and the way we approach them isn’t either. People may tend to use their head in a variety of general decisions, but when it comes to specific scenarios, sometimes the heart wins. Purchasing a home, retiring, and accepting a new job were the top three decisions in which people chose to use their head.
While just 7% of people followed their heart when deciding whether or not to purchase a home, 93% used their head. Similarly, 86% and 85% of people used their head when deciding whether to retire and whether they should accept a new job, respectively. On the other end of the spectrum, choosing a romantic partner was the decision people said was best made with one’s heart,
Choosing a vacation spot or figuring out whether one should pursue a dream were also decisions in which the majority said following one’s heart was best. Of course, some decisions left people split. When deciding whether or not one should get a pet or start a family, 58% said they would follow their head, and 42% said they would follow their heart.
What’s the difference between following your heart and following your mind?
Following The Heart vs Following The Mind In the perfect world, our hearts and our minds would be on the same page about all important life decisions. They would agree on what to have for dinner, whom to date, and pursuing a career. Unfortunately there are far too many instances where the heart and mind want completely different things and for different reasons.
- The Mind often takes on the role of the logical one, helping you decide if it is a smart choice to do whatever it is you want to do.
- The heart on the other hand is often led by emotion, which as we all know can make it difficult to make a clear decision.
- The mind can be like the angel on the shoulder telling you the right thing to do, while the heart is like the devil on your shoulder telling you to do the thing that might not make the most sense but might bring you the most happiness.
Like many things in life, finding a balance between the two is your best bet for all around happiness. If you always follow your heart you may find yourself a glutton for punishment. Your heart is the one that tells you to have the ice cream sundae for dinner every night, while your mind is the one telling you that you do in fact have to eat a balanced meal.
Especially when it comes to your career, the battle between heart and mind can be strong. Your heart wants you to do a job that you enjoy and love and have passion for, while your mind knows that would be nice but also it isn’t always feasible to pay the bills and to have a successful life by simply just following passions.
The benefits of following your heart Following your heart can lead to many opportunities that may otherwise be missed if you are following your mind. When you follow your heart you choose to make a decision before you think of the consequences, which allows you to have opportunities that may be missed if you take the time and talk yourself out of doing it.
Once your mind gets involved in things they lose the spontaneity and joy that come along with simply following your heart. Your heart is more of the carefree, easy-going part of the thought process that allows you to follow a passion or go down a route that may not make sense but just feels right. People who follow their heart are the ones who often feel fulfilled in their careers and life, and feel like they are making a difference in the world around them.
Especially in a workplace sitting following your heart can lead you to be happier and better adjusted then if you are meticulously calculating every move you make. Sometimes, the greater risk can lead to the greater reward. The benefits of letting your mind lead the way There is often far less risk in making decisions that your mind has influenced.
- The Mind lets you weigh the pros and cons, think of potential consequences, and look at it from a more logical perspective.
- Those who are afraid of taking risks find that letting their mind make decisions puts them at more ease than if they don’t let their mind make the decisions.
- Taking the time to weigh the risks and look at all the pros and cons can help you to make a better-informed decision that may ultimately help you in the long run.
When you let your mind to make a decision chances are it will be a well-thought-out, well-researched and well-informed decision. This means it is likely going to help you decide whether or not what you’re choosing to do is a smart choice or not, it can also be more comfortable to choose something that you know is safe based on how you’ve weighed your pros and cons.
Especially in the workplace, following your mind can lead to fewer failures and leave you in a more stable position. Finding The Sweet Spot between your mind and your heart The ultimate secret to finding success is finding the good balance between both following your heart and following your mind. This can be a challenge but it is ultimately worth it in the end when you have a well-informed decision that you can also be passionate about and feel like you’re doing something that truly makes you happy.
Perhaps this means pausing before just jumping in and thinking about what the consequences of doing so are. If you are able to identify the consequences and still want to do it or have a way to address said consequences if you do jump in you may have found a good balance.
- You also can’t always let the logic overpower the freedom that comes with following your heart.
- Some things are meant to be carefree and if you have good coping skills that should following your heart not end as planned, you can use your mind to figure out a way to read direct and ultimately do both follow your mind and your heart.
Letting your brain keep you in line while you follow your heart can also help you to not spiral too far into making poor or risky choices that could adversely affect your life or career. You can let your heart do the driving but it never hurts to consult your mind as the Navigator every now and then to make sure you stay on track and on course.
The heart and mind while often wanting to go in different directions can become a very powerful Duo once they learn to work together. Bouncing off of each other and using the benefits from both to decrease the negatives from both make for the perfect combination. Let them be a team rather than letting one always take the lead and you will find yourself in situations that are both well-thought-out and allow you to follow your passions.
The heart and the mind can work very well together. : Following The Heart vs Following The Mind
What does it mean to follow your heart than your head?
Does your heart know more than your head? Or do you think it’s the other way around? Surely your head is more rational, more professional and more straightforward? Whereas your heart is the one with the passion, the want and the need. But which one should you follow? We’re always told to use our head and our heart.
- But usually, one of them is telling us one thing, and the other is telling us something else.
- Say you’re trying to make it as a freelance writer.
- Your heart is saying, this is what you’re meant to do.
- This is the start of your path.
- Grab it with both hands and go for it! Your head, on the other hand, is saying something different: Be wary – there are so many people doing freelancing right now.
Keep your feet on the ground, you won’t get a gig like that. It’ll take time. And we won’t even go into what the self-doubt monster might be saying. I’ve never been a good decision maker, but my parents have always pushed me to make them on my own. They’ll help me as much as I want them to, but they’ll never make a decision for me.
Where does the feeling of love come from?
Last updated on 3 September 2020 We talk about the moment of falling in love as if we have been hit by Cupid’s arrow – it is intense, overwhelming, sometimes fast and can feel like fate. As time passes, this initial bust of feeling often fades into a comfortable closeness.
The initial happy feelings of being in love is stimulated by 3 chemicals in the brain: noradrenaline that stimulates adrenaline production causing that racing heart and sweaty palms; dopamine, the feel-good chemical; and phenylethylamine that is released when we’re near our crush, giving us butterflies in our tummies.
But is there a biological reason behind these feelings? And why do you fall in love with that one person you do? There are 3 distinct phases of falling in love. The first, lust, is driven by the levels of testosterone (men) and oestrogen (women) in our bodies.
Is love all in the head?
Feb.14, 2001 – Legend has it that when Napoleon Bonaparte wrote Josephine to arrange a love tryst, he said, “I’m coming home – please don’t wash.” Recent research on the scientific basis of love suggests that the famous general may have been onto something that guaranteed his success in the bedroom as well as on the battlefield.
Armpit sweat broken down by bacteria may not sound very appealing, but that’s the origin of pheromones, those elusive, odorless chemicals given off in response to sexual stimulation or even romantic fantasy. In animals including mice, dogs, and insects, these chemicals attract the opposite sex and initiate mating behavior.
“In humans, the effect is quite different, because they have to inhale their own pheromone for it to work,” Peter Pugliese, MD, PhD, tells WebMD. From the nose, the pheromone travels to a part of the brain involved in emotions and sex drive, “This makes the person aware of their own attractiveness and allows them to project a heightened sense of approachability,” says Pugliese, a private skin physiology consultant to Philosophy Cosmetics,
- In married couples, pheromones might cause a renewed interest in the other person, leading to feeling closer and being more attentive – not necessarily to sex,” But don’t write off the power of pheromones as an aphrodisiac just yet.
- A 1998 study from the Athena Institute for Women’s Wellness Research in Chester Springs, Pa., documented the sexual activity of 38 young to middle-aged heterosexual men while using pheromones.
Users of pheromones, but not of an inactive control substance, had increased frequency of informal dates, affectionate gestures, sleeping next to a romantic partner, foreplay, and sexual intercourse. As frequency of masturbation did not change, the researchers concluded that pheromones increased the sexual attractiveness of men to women, and therefore sexual behaviors requiring the woman’s interest and cooperation, rather than sex drive itself.
Hoping to capitalize on the purported effects of pheromones, Philosophy Cosmetics markets an odorless elixir of pheromone concentrate called “Falling in Love,” for women only, to increase their sense of well-being. Evidence, albeit unsubstantiated, from Victoria’s Secret suggests “spectacular results” in women using the product, even those who considered themselves to be unattractive, Pugliese says.
Before you rush out to buy stock in this company, though, be advised that scientists are still arguing over whether humans even have a specialized sensory organ that detects pheromones, known in rodents as the “vomeronasal organ.” In last month’s issue of Annual Reviews of Psychology, Richard L.
Doty, PhD, a professor of otorhinolaryngology at the Smell and Taste Center of the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia, reviewed the evidence and called it “controversial.” “Humans might have similar in the nerve cells lining the nose, but we don’t yet know how they’re activated,” says Frank Zufall, PhD, an associate professor of anatomy and neurobiology at the University of Maryland in Baltimore.
When we speak of the chemistry of love, it’s not just an idle expression. Different chemicals in the brain, or neurotransmitters, play different roles at each stage of the mating game. “There are three different types of love – lust, romantic love, and long-term attachment – each associated with different neurotransmitters, all hardwired into the brain,” Helen E.
- Fisher, PhD, tells WebMD.
- Lust, that emotion that chases us out of the house and drives us to find a partner, is related to bursts of testosterone,” says Fisher, a professor of anthropology at Rutgers University in Newark, N.J.
- Romantic love, she says, is related to abnormalities in the neurotransmitters serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, making it biochemically similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder, a psychiatric illness where thoughts of a single subject dominate the patient’s life.
Fisher has interviewed romantic lovers who tell her that they spend 85% of their waking moments fantasizing about their loved one. “In romantic love, we can’t stop thinking about the person we’re in love with,” she says. When you’re in love, it’s in your blood as well as in your head, according to research from the University of Pisa in Italy.
Subjects falling in love resembled patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder in terms of neurochemical changes involving platelets, those blood cells involved in making blood clot and wounds heal. “I did not discover why we fall in love, but only that romantic lovers resemble patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder in this platelet abnormality, which may underlie the similar thought process,” researcher Donatella Marazziti, MD, tells WebMD.
“This is only a small tile in the complex mosaic of love, which is certainly also something more than mere biology.” In romantic love, we feel elated and giddy, and can’t sleep or eat, because of increased levels of dopamine and norepinephrine. “This phase evolved so we could distinguish between potential partners,” Fisher says.
When we’re in love, dopamine, nicknamed the “pleasure chemical,” gives us a “high,” according to James H. Fallon, PhD, a professor of anatomy and neurobiology at the University of California at Irvine. “Dopamine is the great motivator in the brain that is absolutely necessary to act, to walk over to the person we’ve just seen and start a more serious approach,” Fallon says.
Dopamine can be stimulated artificially by alcohol and drugs. Along with other brain chemicals, it also gives us those physical clues that we’re falling in love – heart racing, pupils dilating, and a light sweat – turning on pheromone production. Genetic differences in body chemistry may create different pheromones, so that prospective mates may be subconsciously “turned on” or “turned off” by subtle chemical messages.
- Commercially produced pheromones are therefore unlikely to have universal appeal, according to Fallon.
- Another spirit in the heady cocktail making us intoxicated with romantic love is phenylethylamine (PEA), according to Hector Sabelli, MD, PhD, a researcher at the Chicago Center for Creative Development in Illinois.
“I believe that PEA may be the hormone of libido, but there’s only circumstantial evidence at this point,” Sabelli tells WebMD. Sabelli’s research showed that high PEA levels help explain increased sex drive and activity in the manic phase of manic-depressive illness, while low PEA levels reflect loss of libido in depression.
- PEA is effective when given by mouth, but like Viagra, could be dangerous in patients with heart disease.
- The final phase of love, the one that leads to diamond wedding anniversaries, is a calm, secure feeling of attachment to a long-term partner.
- This is important to conserve our mating energy, bonding with only one partner at a time,” Fisher says.
Oxytocin is the hormone thought to be responsible for this phase of love, as well as for mother-child bonding. Fallon calls it the “cuddling hormone,” as it is released by touch “done with the right rhythm and pressure.” Could there be a genetic basis for long-term commitment? Perhaps at least in the prairie vole, an extraordinarily faithful rodent, explains Thomas Insel, MD, director of the Center for Behavioral Neuroscience at Emory University in Atlanta.
From their first mating, prairie voles bond for life. The male defends the female from all other males and mates with her to the exclusion of all other females. Even when their mate is removed from the colony, 80% of males refuse to mate with any other female. Insel discovered that oxytocin and vasopressin, a nerve chemical linked to memory, are released in the rodent’s brain at first mating.
If Insel artificially changed the levels of these hormones, he could wipe out the lifetime bond. Even more extraordinary, Insel found the gene responsible for this behavior and developed a mouse carrying this gene. He was hoping to create a “monogamouse” that would remain faithful to one mate, unlike most mice who mate with any available female.
- But, alas, the experiment was unsuccessful.
- ‘Monogamouse’ does not exist,” Insel tells WebMD.
- While Insel does not think his research might lead to any type of love potion, he hopes that it might eventually provide an approach to autism, a disorder in which children don’t connect emotionally with people around them.
Fallon believes that science might eventually assist Cupid with just the right mix of nerve chemicals to intensify attraction, romantic excitement, and long-term bonding. But probably not any time soon. “If we really understood the, we could increase or decrease the threshold for falling in love,” Semir Zeki, PhD, tells WebMD.
A neurochemical to manipulate this emotion would be very heavily controlled, and not advisable to use,” says Zeki, a professor of cognitive neurology at the University College of London in England. By using functional MRI scans, Zeki studied brain activity associated with romantic love. Scans done while subjects were viewing pictures of their love interest were compared with scans done while they viewed pictures of platonic friends, and the scans were different.
“The sentiment of love triggered by a face is controlled by a unique pattern of small areas in the brain heavily interconnected with each other,” Zeki says. Fisher is now analyzing her own neuroimaging data from subjects in romantic love and predicts that she will find altered activity in brain systems using dopamine and norepinephrine.
We have an enormous amount to learn about the human sexual response,” Pugliese says. “Cows in heat bellow so that males can find them, but they still exchange pheromones by sniffing each other’s genitals before mating. With humans, it’s far more subtle.” Until science concocts the best recipe for romance, you might do well to stick to the old standbys for Valentine’s Day.
According to Fallon, chocolates can give your lover a buzz by stimulating PEA production, while soft lights, turning up the heat, and romantic music will get the oxytocin flowing. For shy lovers, a cocktail might loosen inhibitions, but too much is self-defeating.
Does love actually come from your heart?
Published February 11, 2022 at 12:15 PM EST Happy-Lucky / iStock Collection of hand-drawn hearts. Why is the heart a symbol of love? Why do people draw hearts when they love someone? Why do we draw hearts the way we do when they’re nothing like the hearts inside of your body? And do we need a heart to love or does the brain do it? We’re learning all about hearts and symbolism with Thomas and Stephen Amidon, authors of The Sublime Engine: A Biography of the Human Heart,
No one really knows where the heart symbol comes from, but there are theories. One is that the heart shape comes from the shape of the leaves of a now-extinct plant called silphium, which was considered a key component of a love potion in the time of the Romans. Another theory is that St. Valentine used the symbol when arranging secret marriages. Another is that it was simply a guess of what the human heart looked like. Love and other emotions are actually regulated in the brain, not the heart. Specifically, a part of the brain called the amygdala. People might partly associate the heart with strong emotions like love because when we get excited to see someone, our heart sometimes beats faster, and we notice our heartbeat. We aren’t really aware of what’s happening in our brain. The human heart pumps blood to all parts of your body. The heart beats once a second. If you live to the age of 70, your heart will have beat about 2 billion times!!
Resources How the heart actually pumps blood – TEDEd Your Hardworking Heart and Spectacular Circulatory System by Paul Mason Heart and Circulatory System Activities Jane Lindholm is the host, executive producer and creator of But Why: A Podcast For Curious Kids. In addition to her work on our international kids show, she produces special projects for Vermont Public. Until March 2021, she was host and editor of the award-winning Vermont Public program Vermont Edition. Melody is the Contributing Editor for But Why: A Podcast For Curious Kids and the co-author of two But Why books with Jane Lindholm.
Is love just in your brain?
Total Eclipse of the Brain – Think of the last time you ran into someone you find attractive. You may have stammered, your palms may have sweated; you may have said something incredibly asinine and tripped spectacularly while trying to saunter away (or is that just me?).
And chances are, your heart was thudding in your chest. It’s no surprise that, for centuries, people thought love (and most other emotions, for that matter) arose from the heart. As it turns out, love is all about the brain – which, in turn, makes the rest of your body go haywire. According to a team of scientists led by Dr.
Helen Fisher at Rutgers, romantic love can be broken down into three categories : lust, attraction, and attachment. Each category is characterized by its own set of hormones stemming from the brain (Table 1). Table 1: Love can be distilled into three categories: lust, attraction, and attachment. Though there are overlaps and subtleties to each, each type is characterized by its own set of hormones. Testosterone and estrogen drive lust; dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin create attraction; and oxytocin and vasopressin mediate attachment.